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Ways to Say Thank You Without Sucking Up

In the spirit of Thanksgiving, we thought it would be prudent to list some ways to say “Thank You” without being cheesy or looking like you’re trying to suck up.  This especially comes in handy when you’re thanking a boss or someone higher up in the food chain.

1.  Vent in Private – let’s face it, people can be annoying.  When you work in close proximity to someone, you’re going to get bugged at times.  Maybe it’s the way your boss clips his fingernails while at work, or the bad breath of a co-worker who invades your personal space…both are annoying and would make great fodder for a facebook post or a story among friends.

One word:  refrain.

The best way to show your thanks to someone is to refrain from gossip, back-biting and hurtful comments even when you’re 100% sure it will never get back to them.  If you practice kindness behind people’s backs, it will show up in your face-to-face demeanor with them and you will reap the benefits by having better friendships, working relationships and the respect from your peers and boss.

Plus, you won’t ever have to deal with the awkwardness of having your boss come across a facebook post about him!

2.   Acknowledge Holidays and Special Occasions - one way of expressing gratitude and showing thoughtfulness is on holidays.  You won’t look like you’re sucking up if you purchase a Christmas gift, do something for your boss on Boss’s Day or bring treats  occasionally for other holidays.

One manager had never been recognized on Boss’s Day and never gave much thought to it – it was just another day to him. A new employee had always recognized this day in her previous job and utterly shocked the boss by giving him a package of golf balls and a small treat on Boss’s Day.  It was a small gesture, but that employee was never forgotten.

If a gift is given sincerely and with a little thought, it will make a BIG impression on those special occasions.

3.  Saying Thank You – in a previous post we discussed the importance of saying Thank You.  It is just as important for underlings to use these words as it is for the manager or boss.

Thanking people for the little things does matter.

Thanking for the time off to take care of a sick child, thanking for the bonus, thanking for the couple hours off early last Friday, thanking for the healthcare benefits, thanking for the way they conduct business, thanking for their integrity or example, thanking for the feedback and even thanking for the criticism so you can do your job better – these are all ways to sincerely express your gratitude for your job and for what your boss does for you.

Just make sure that you are really feeling what you thanking someone for or you will come across as insincere and a suck-up…and no one likes a suck-up.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Gracias, Merci, Thank You!

No matter what language you use, saying Thank You is a simple, yet powerful way of retaining good employees and keeping morale high in your business (or personal life).

Many employees have cited that they have accepted and stayed in a job that had standard to sub-standard wages because they felt appreciated, they felt validated and they were thanked on a regular basis.

One employee was working in a job she knew was a temporary position.  The hours were extremely long, the job was high-stress and every day was grueling.  To top it off, this employee was expecting and didn’t often feel well.  On paper it didn’t seem worth it for the employee to stay.

In reality, it was one of the most rewarding jobs the employee ever had.


Because of two words:  thank you.

The employee was thanked.  Often.  And in many different ways.  Lunches out, gift certificates and just simple words of gratitude conveyed that the company couldn’t do it without her, she was valued, she was an integral part of the company and she was appreciated.

It doesn’t take much to make employees feel good.  A few simple words each day, an acknowledgement of an accomplishment or a job well done go far in keeping employees happy and content.

An employee who feels genuinely valued and appreciated would walk across hot coals for their boss and be more patient when the money is tight, the hours are long, or the job is stressful.

Start today – make a list of people you have relationships with and then write something about each person you are grateful for, and then find a way to express this gratitude – a note, some words or even a small gift.

You will find that the more you express gratitude, the easier it is for you to do this on a regular basis and improve your business and your relationships.